If anything that would differentiate me from the crowd is my tendency of finding goodness on others and being able to treat them all with a pinch of decency including strangers. If I were to talk straight from the heart, I genuinely thought that it was a virtue that I should always be proud of and learn to cherish it. My past experiences however suggest the opposite and maybe it is about time that I should start looking things from a totally different perspective as well.
First of all, I must confess that I don’t like rude, uncivilized and smarty-pant people and my priority has always been to avoid them. I always treat people with politeness and respect. But whenever I found the other side is not at the same league, my first reaction is to walk away and leave them alone. If not, my preference of dealing with such situation is to apply the mirror tactic, which shows exactly what it was shown, and act like a mirror. If the person is rude, be rude like him. If he shouts, shout like him and so on. But of course, it won’t be an ideal situation as always as we want. Yet, we still have to deal with it one way or another.
I am not only honest and honorable but also extremely loyal and I always like to do things in a right and lawful manner. That must be the reason why I hate queue-jumpers, liars, and ungrateful mutts. Perfidy is worse than death, infidelity is an unforgivable sin, and I just cannot stand dishonesty. But it has become so common nowadays that those transgressions are treated like nothing more than occasional shenanigans and easily forgotten. It is the anomalies of our modern society that are easily forgiven as well.
Social media is the place where everyone can become anyone. But if you only want to be friend with me so I can like your page/post and go away again, please don’t bother and I rather see your back even before you enter my world. We can have thousands of so called friends in a social media site but how many of them do you really care or vice versa. There is not much difference between the real and virtual world. People always behave in the same way. I can count them on my fingers and your position is certainly not better than mine. I like your post, congratulate you on your new job and always reciprocate don’t necessarily mean you deserve them all. I do it mostly because I am a nice person.
I have relatives/friends who don’t give a monkey about me and yet want my money. Life is a two-way-traffic; it has to be good for both sides to pass through and one-sided-way won’t take us too far. If you want a favor from me, you must compensate it one way or another and it doesn’t always have to end with money. There are many other things such as love, care, respect, concern, empathy and compassion can be offered instead. You don’t have to be rich to offer them and one heart should be enough for all. Yet, we always seem to forget about it. It is very hard to find and trust people nowadays. People hardly move fingers without motive and all we can think about is nothing but ourselves. It is always all about ME, the world has almost forgotten about WE.
As I have already said many times that writing is my passion and helping others is my compassion. It is a fact like the sun at daytime and moon at the night. How many times do I have to shout from the top of my lung that I ONLY WRITE FOR MY CHARITY? Why it is so hard for people to accept it? Your skepticism is understandable but I don’t need your scathing views. You can shove it up there and hit the road. What’s more, I don’t do it to please anyone, I do it for my own happiness and I don’t give a monkey about anything else. So, please just don’t bother.
You might say I am a man with too much bitter, but unless you live in a society where you are not only discriminated against by all but also looked down upon based on your color of skin, you won’t understand. If you get harassed by the police, insinuated by locals, and treated by all as a 3rd class citizen in your own place, only then will you be able to feel my pain. I wasn’t born with bitterness, it is the society that gave it to me and the irony is that I didn’t even ask for it.
Sometime, I really wonder why it is so hard to be a nice man in this world. The world has become rather cruel, selfish and apathy by days and it seemed like people actually do enjoy hurting others. I might be wrong but that is what I actually see things now in this world. If you don’t believe it, try being a nice guy at least for a week, or read one of my books alternatively, and you will find your answer. All the best!
TIM I GURUNG/AUTHOR AT ISSLCARE – http://www.timigurung.com