Social networking is a necessity devil for all the marketers, especially for the new and self-published authors like us, it is a must, and that is precisely what I had been harnessing for the entire year 2015. I am not going to repeat here again on the pros and cons of social networking sites, I have already wrote enough about it and if you fancy for more details, you can find them right here on my blogs. What I am going to write on this piece is about the peeves of my own social networking practices, a sort of anomaly at its own right, if I would say, and it is totally based on my own experiences and it has nothing to do whatsoever with anything or anyone else.
As you know, I have been busy writing this coming year, and trying really hard to make a new habit of it from the very early on. You should have already noticed my less frequent appearances on my social networking sites and I am posting only one blog each week for my official blog page. Since I didn’t write a single page in the whole 2015, in order to catch up and offload the pile of stories from my head, I have already started writing five titles all at once this year. Although the progress has been really slow at the start and I am not ashamed of admitting it, it is gradually picking up by days. And the main culprit on making my life difficult is nothing but the social networking itself. It is certainly a huge distraction on my work, I cannot help but keep on flipping the multi-faceted screens of my computer in every ten minutes, and it is obviously affecting my actual writing.
I have always been one of the nicest persons on social networking sites from the very beginning; I have been very responsive and always been polite as well as thankful. I wished them all on birthday, congratulated and liked their anniversaries, and thanked them whenever my connections have liked or commented on my posts. After doing it persistently for the whole 2015, my experiences taught me few things and I have learned restraining myself from many things that I used to do before without any reservations. I had many irksome and quirky situations but those were the few as listed below which really annoyed me in time and changed my perception on social networking.
Acceptance of your friend request by people doesn’t mean anything, for most people it is nothing more than a number and the bigger the better. So there is no point for being overexcited. I offered a free book review for authors but one overcautious author had the audacity of accusing me for intended piracy. I joined some paid sites but found them not much useful either. They are mostly run by a group of closed circle friends, they are simply too busy talking to each other, and an outsider like you and me will start feeling unwelcomed. The other such groups are mostly for serving the ego and needs of its founders and they don’t offer much help for the new comers. I am still finding it very hard how people buy books from ads at Twitter, they just get a second or so to flip and hardly click, and the most followers I got from Twitter were either fellow writers or those wanting to sell fake followers for certain fees. Facebook is even worse, it is mostly for families and friends, and most of the groups that I had joined were full of writers and they only wanted to sell. FB is also full of cheats, scammers, and fakes. It also charges for total number of reaches, not actual clicks, and the ads on FB weren’t that much effective for me. I also found some cheapskates who asked for review swaps and when you have done your review and waited for the other side, it would never materialize. Most will befriend you so you can LIKE their official FB page and once it is done and when it is their turn, they will simply disappear or ignore you.
The other annoyance of having friends from Western hemisphere is the necessity of checking your status and clearing all of those not-so-nice-looking postings in a regular basis so your piety is not questioned by your closed family. Authors who write on such genres seemed to be also the most active ones and that made situation even harder. Such open display of vulgarity and expletives can be a norm in the developed world, but here, it can still be a very sensitive subject and especially for senior people like us, it can be an image issue. I had to un-friend many of them only for that reason alone and I still feel sorry for them even now.
All in all, I have almost 10k connections in my social networking sites, I hardly have good term with more than a couple of dozens people, and it says it all. Needless to say, I have changed a lot since then. I am still active on social media, but I only do things that are absolutely necessary for my presence in there and nothing more.
TIM I GURUNG/AUTHOR AT ISSLCARE – http://www.timigurung.com